Session 35
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Session 35
“Everything’s On The Table”
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We’re Back After A Break
SPEAKER_03Court, quart, quart.
SPEAKER_02We are the test shoot back. We back. He's a derby. He told us. Happy Wednesday. Happy Wednesday. There you are. I'm about to get Jason a voice box because I didn't hear that. He spoke up this time. He showed up when I said something else real clear. Right. Is that what it is? No, because Kila is wearing headphones. I mean, but you're still in the room. I can still hear you. We're supposed to be able to see. I told y'all you can't. Exactly. Yelling at me. Yeah, because you can't hear him when he talks regularly. That was yelling. That was him yelling. He put on his daddy voice. Wasn't it? I told you. That's exactly how that just sounded. He put on the voice. Now anyway, we're back. Blah, blah, blah. We are back. We were having technical difficulties before we started this episode. But we are back. But we are back. We've been out of here for what, y'all? A couple. It's been what a month or two? About two months. Yeah. We've just been gone, working on life, ourselves, family. Life been working on us. Life and life. We've been busy. We've been too busy. Family keeping us busy. Life keeping us busy and all kinds of stuff. But we back and we're grateful for everybody who again checked in and engaged with our content still and just supported us in all ways. So tonight, our title was Everything's on the Table. So we just got a few little questions. Put it on the table. And a few little things. We just we just put it all out there. Or is you just laying it out? You know, you throwing it down. We're gonna have to get we're gonna have to drink one day and play space sitting right here. I'm very serious with my spades. See? Because she's serious. We gotta do that. Yes, I gotta concentrate. I'm not even gonna sing that because I don't want y'all to roast me. Oh she better not be telling us that. Is that what you're saying, Keila? Yes.
SPEAKER_01Oh my gosh, Keila. She's the only clayer. I'm not a card player. I'm sorry. I was gonna say what? You ain't hearing what you said. Okay, Gene.
SPEAKER_02That's the only no, I play I know how to play tunk. I can play tunk now. I don't remember that. For real. I can play tank. So because of that, we are looking for a fourth member. Keila is oh that day.
SPEAKER_03She got her back for a revolt. You can just make us some drinks. Exactly. I'll be the bartender. No. I'll be the bartender.
SPEAKER_01No, no, no, no.
SPEAKER_02Anyway,
Big Tigger Video And The Fallout
SPEAKER_02so our first topic. We're gonna jump for this one first. Tigger and his wife. Oh bigger is really on the bigger. Why y'all keep calling that man Tigger? What is this man? It's been Tigger. My bad. Oh, Mr. Tigger. Like that's just such much of a different thing. That's his name, Big Tigger. He never just been Tigger or Mr. Yeah, it ain't never. If you Google Tigger, it's not gonna come up. You gotta Google Big Tigger. It's gonna come up because it's gonna come up with the girl. I realized he's rubbing that grass in his 50s. Yeah, I did not realize that man was in his 50s. Why you didn't realize that? Oh no, you know, time just be there. He was wrestling, his back is out. Who was wrestling? You were wrestle too. He was wrestling. He wasn't wrestling. He was with his wife. Oh my god. Girl. Y'all was crazy. I wouldn't know what was in that phone. Okay. That video was hilarious. I'm sorry. That video was hilarious. What is the y'all know he hilarious? Behind it, she was very hilarious. Y'all know any of the kids. The girl got kidnapped. The daughter got kidnapped. I'm sorry. Her daughter is supposedly missing. Yeah, the daughter missed. But the day I says she kidnapped. Sorry. I heard that too. I heard something about the indication. And the daughter is still alive. That's what I'm saying. So this was an old case apparently that she kidnapped her daughter from her father. Father. And she was that's why they said she'd been missing for all that time. She was hiding him her from a custody battle or something. I guess so, yeah. But now she's 17, right? Is she 17? So what you gonna call it? She was seven. When she went missing, I thought she was. Oh my gosh. All right. Don't leave behold us to that information because please don't. We don't know. They're calling them Tigger. We just missed the Tigger. What you call them, Krista? We weren't even supposed to be talking about the daughter anyway. Exactly. That's that's Play. Who don't know how to play space? That video was funny. I'm a soul like so. Who is the y'all know who the person was that was recording? They ring their camera in their house.
SPEAKER_01No, it was somebody who was it?
SPEAKER_02Yeah, they called Alex. They hurt Alexander Alex. So she has a son too. And a daughter. By who? Another man. So she got three people. Y'all don't know the boy. She only had one child back.
SPEAKER_00Big ticker.
SPEAKER_02And it's not stepping on her. He said, at least they reached her. He never step. He said, stop stepping on her. You're hurting. Yeah, because he originally did the kid say that arrested. I didn't even listen to the kid. Yeah, but did he get arrested first? Yes. Yeah, but before this, right? Domestic violence or something prior to this. I mean, no, that's why the camera got released, the footage. But because she was saying she was beat on. Because you I saw the picture, so whatever. And they said she slammed her face until she failed. He didn't do that. Okay. He didn't do that. So I think she came. She never let's clear this first. She never came on there and said he did it. She just let people think he did it. And then she came back and tried to clear it up. So wait, that that none of the paperwork said that she said her husband abused her. No paperwork that she written. No. I thought that you were.
SPEAKER_00Oh no, well, when she said her own personal video. So she went on her story. No, before she went on her story and she said her husband was abusive. Yeah, on her story. So if you said your husband is abusive, then she came back and cleared it up.
SPEAKER_02She didn't really be abusive. She didn't really say those words, though. She posted the picture and she played around with it. That's why I said she gave the illusion. She wanted people to think that he did that. That's what she wanted everybody to believe. Until the footage came out. But why? And you still don't want to let him go. He wanted his phone. Let it go so you can go on. Why? Because the police was called and somebody went to jail.
SPEAKER_00First off. Well, he already went. We got to know that with domestic body.
SPEAKER_02I'm gonna need y'all to know that if somebody called the police, you or him is coming out. If not both. If not both, impact. So okay, but what did it do? What was her reason? He went, he came back home, tried to get his phone, and now you're making it seem like he's abusing you again. No, and I'm glad that was on camera because that baby. He did. The baby, the boy, whoever was recording, was like, get off of her, get off of her, Mr. Tigger. That's what I'm saying. The reason why he called him Mr. Tigger is because that's his stepdad. Not calling him Mr. Tigger. This is not funny. We should be shaming ourselves for laughing at him. It is funny. No, we laughed. I'm laughing at your talking about Mr. Tigger. That's what I'm saying. He's screaming like he really doing something to her, but he wasn't. I mean, but he had kids because the kids are no kids. Well, why you recording? You're recording really good. I mean that you had that problem. My six-year-old to record us real good for sure. My six-year-old beat the but not paying attention. Put that phone down. He was trying to help his mama get some evidence that Mr. Tigger is beating on his mama, but not understanding that it fucked because you helped. But you were trying to prove that he didn't know.
SPEAKER_00So y'all think it was pre-planned? No, baby.
SPEAKER_02Oh, but that's some people said it was old footage, but I don't understand. I mean, it was not pre-planned. Like she came in there with an agenda. The thing about it is, you know what I'm saying? I think whatever she posted on the internet got everybody involved. So I think he came back and put the footage out. I believe the footage is old. He came back and put the footage out so everybody can see that he didn't touch her. Yeah. Basically to clear his name. Yeah. Because necessary. According to them, he was an abuser three days ago. That's what I was saying. And what I had to lose, though. And what I didn't get was yeah, but what I didn't get and what she was like, if I don't know if y'all heard her when he was trying to get the phone, you wouldn't do this if I was somebody else. If I was somebody else. That kind of I didn't know what that means. What does that mean? And it makes sense. I don't know.
SPEAKER_03I was confused.
SPEAKER_02What try to take the phone if she was somebody else? I don't understand that. Maybe you got somebody else who he deal with or something. I mean, we never know what type of relationships people have. So his co- so his co-worker on the radio showing her suing her. She suing the white. Yeah. Because she was that they were messing around and that they wasn't. So I also saw there was a lot of interviews that apparently he did that a lot of people were warning him about this particular woman. Yes. Did y'all see that? Like, who is she? A woman that ran off with her child. Okay, that's what I'm saying. Like, is it somebody they warning her about because of what she did about the baby, or was there a lot more to it? From what I heard, I don't know what her background is, but what I heard was her ex warned him. Like she crazy, she delusional, she all of these things. So it's like a lot of times we don't listen though. And they said a lot of people warned him. But can you get in trouble for taking your child and taking them? I don't think you can. And if they custody, but if they keep saying she's missing, that's why they're saying she's missing. Right, so they don't have no proof. I don't think she's missing either. She gotta be because she locked up right now. So I saw not only was she locked up because of that, they saying. Because they all uh suffered. Her daughter is missing over suffering. So she's been missing for years. No, so she had a a warrant or something in Maryland. They live in Atlanta, so that's why she's arrested. So the warrant is apparently she was she had a miscarriage and she was having postpartum, so that's her excuse. But she went to a casino, went gambling somewhere, and left her child in the car for eight hours. Hold on. So it's not his own. That's missing. That's her original warrant for, right? So why do I keep reading stories about they say it's so many stories? It's so many insane stories. Let's see what we love stuff. No, yeah, it's a lot of not.
SPEAKER_00They got a baby, so they baby is not missing. They have a baby together, so it's her child right now.
SPEAKER_02That's her child. That's what they were saying. And he should have done background checks on her. A lot of people. I mean, we know background checks on people, but when somebody showed us who they is, we gotta believe them. And that's what we don't do. We give chance after chance after chance, and then be like, okay, you already showed us so background checks. So that was another question that came from this story.
Should You Run A Background Check
SPEAKER_02How often are y'all outside actually doing background checks on the people y'all dating? And is that they're not dating, they married. No, not them. I'm just saying that was a question. So when you start dating somebody, are you not doing a thorough check background check? I don't know. I'm not going on no internet looking at the nowadays. People probably check their social media and try to see what, but that's the farthest that you really go. I say that too, so I don't I don't remember the story. I mean, I remember the story, but I don't remember the names. But I think this was in Flint somewhere where the girl was with the man, they were married and had three kids in the whole time. He had just got released from prison from raping for rape, and he was in prison a couple times for rape, and she would have had no idea because she didn't do a thorough background check on him. Yeah, that's why they say, like, y'all might want to start investing in stuff like that. You might want to check it. A lot of people have a lot of them are registered sex offenders, and you just have no idea because you social media are not gonna tell you that. So you might want to start doing some background checks on these folks. I ain't gonna tell me that you crazy. I mean, nowadays it's so much going on, but just think about it back in the day. You ain't about to Google no guy and try to see. I mean, that's we didn't do all that. That's a lot to do. It is, it's it's vibes. Either I like you or I don't. If you give me a vibe, vibe, it's like, oh, something off, or they make me feel some type of way. It's something that has to happen that pushes. I mean, you will know too, like the family-wise the kids where's the kids. Yeah, you just don't know. Yeah, like you don't know right why he don't get to see his kids, why he ain't got his family, why they you know, of course they can give you stories still, but eventually something's gonna come out. Yeah, so I'm gonna open up a business to do background checks for everybody. Y'all can just send them to me. Oh, well, that might be a good business. No, for real. We do dating background checks around here. I mean, you might need to say she did a background check on somebody I was dating once before. Oh, she was he okay? I bet you he gave her a vibe. She just like that. They just like, no, I need to know. All
Music Lyrics And Youth Influence
SPEAKER_02right, so we're gonna move on to spin that shit. Oh spin that shit. Spin it. I ain't gonna lie. Every time I every time I hear that song, I'll be wanting to say that's catchy, it's very catchy. It is so y'all see the inner was talking about it recently because there were some words that were said from Indy I re and a lot of other people, and then they misunderstood, I think, what she was trying to say, but they were saying that well who Indy Iree. They thought that she was trying to say boycott the song, and she made it very clear when she came back on her and they said that's not what she was saying. She was just saying that that type of music we promote any. Yeah, it's not good for our use, basically. You know what I'm saying? It it destroys the whatever. Yeah, like that. But it's not for her. She was saying it's not for her, like that's for you. Go ahead and do that. But that's not something that I will listen to or go by and blah blah blah. So a lot of people was talking about castling, a lot of people took the for it. I saw a lot of people having uh Miami back though. Out of out of every song, why did you come for this song? Why did you come? It's not like we're gonna go out there and just do get a scammer and do all it's not like we're gonna go out and do it. But I think what she's saying is that's what the youth is doing now. So it's like back then we didn't look at rappers and um celebrities as we wanted to live their lives. But why did she pick this song out of all the songs in the world? Maybe because what it's saying. Out of all the songs in the world, I mean, but a lot of people. No, it is, right? It is a lot of songs, but I think I think that was a woman. Yes, it's she was a topic right now. And I believe she probably would say the same thing about sexy red. So I don't, I think a pe a lot of people got a problem with it because they feel like she singled out young Miami, but I think it was because everybody is speaking on everything now. So it's like when those other songs was coming out, everybody didn't have this vocalization that we have now where you can just no, they didn't. They still talked about songs, but it's getting more and more. Just think about but just think about 2020. It wasn't no podcast like that. That was just six years ago. It was, but it was but not like how it is now. So now with so many people talking about everything, TikTok wasn't doing what it's doing now because that was for the kids. So it's like it's so many things that celebrities get to chime in on now that they never really chimed in on before she's caught. So you would feel like she commented on it because it just was popping right now. Not that it's it was a hottest song right now. So maybe if she was in an interview, she probably would collide a lot a lot more. But right now, because that's popping out. Because what she was saying is it's about the youth. So I feel like she wasn't just the people really just made it about young Miami.
SPEAKER_00I think she was just saying that we gotta be careful was what's being put out there. She did. She was being said she wasn't really just singling out her. Okay. It was just that's what everybody else is.
SPEAKER_02Okay, but if I feel like that, I don't feel like I would have said that. But it was one thing that she did say that I tell my kids all the time. You have to guard your ear gate, and you have to guard your eye gate. Because it's what you take in. This is exactly what she said. It's it's what you take in, it's what you do. And a lot of times, and what's happening is it's not a lot of times, what's happening is is these kids are imitating. We didn't imitate these things. That's what I just said. Well, I ain't gonna say we didn't, all of us did not do that, but you had some kids that imitated the things that we were going through back in the day, you know, all the music and stuff, you know what I'm saying? Like everything is hyper, like sexually hyper now. You know what I'm saying? Now everything is shooting. You know what I'm saying? Again, what's happening? That's what they're doing. I also think, oh she's my pussy pink, my booty home. I mean, that's a song. Yeah, like I don't like, I don't like none of that stuff. So you know what I think too? Because we regardless of I saw somebody else was explaining how this was because the music is just getting, I guess it's just getting more outright. It's outright, yeah. It's getting that way. It's more selling. I feel like it's been outright. It's not been that way. It was worse, but I gotta comment on that.
SPEAKER_00You know what it was? So Lily, it was out there. It was a lot worse back then.
SPEAKER_02I'm not even gonna say a lot worse, but the songs was horrible back then.
SPEAKER_00Yeah, they were they wasn't at your reach. You couldn't just wake up in the morning and hear my boom on the radio.
SPEAKER_02You have to wait until out of time. Like you have to go on a special channel that had locks to see these things. Now it's it's just access. No, the other one. BT after dark, BNC after so it's like now our kids have access to all of the there's no limits, okay? It's no blocking them. They be like, oh, well, don't let them have social media. They're gonna sneak and do it anyway. So everything is out of our control, and that's what she's saying. How do we get control back? Yeah, we can't get control back if this is what's being put out. That's that's nothing. You do gotta have control of your own. But you can't say it just because mine might be good, the next one might not be, but I can't get mad at that one because that one ain't in my household. Yeah, so I'm not about to go crazy over here. Somebody I cannot. That's all I'm gonna say. I already somebody said something, and this is true because Cardi B said her kids ain't listening to her music. Right. You have to you have to guard your own kids, you have to make sure that your kids ain't listening to this type of stuff. Like my kids know they better not play money. That mess in my house. You can't do it, you just can't do it because I don't want to hear it. I don't want to hear it now. If you put your headphones on and you listen to your own music, my child. I'm gonna say I'll tell you what's right, but they don't tell you what's right and wrong about it, but you know, you're still gonna grow up and do whatever you want to do. Right. I can only teach everyone so much. There's another thing that bothered me about this whole situation. I don't care if nobody say, I don't care. Nobody say I'm gonna keep saying it. The black woman is the most hated. Now I'm not saying that because the NRA came for her, but it'd be the people, for example, homeboy Trick Daddy. He had so much to say about this situation. Oh, did he? Yes, yes, he went on. He don't need older women. Older women, yeah. But what all but India is brought out with Trina? No, the baddest bitch. No, he's on Miami Sad. He had so much. Yes, yes, he had a lot to say to India I re. Yeah, he was just you know calling her uh O B, just jealous, because look at her body and look at yours. Okay, but we tell you Trick Daddy is. See what I'm saying? But this is the part I've been talking about. Like it's so much stuff that was. But that's what you say. It's so many things that these men who have platforms, men and women have platforms that y'all can use to go be outraged on. But y'all wait until one of us black women can do something that you're annoyed at and y'all just go crazy. Because whenever, like I said, India I re and then he who else was at uh Uncle Luke. He had something to say about it too. He said, Oh, yeah, he said if the world was full of at Afrocentric music like Jill Scott and India I re the world be boring as fuck. I don't know. That's basically what he said. So that's what that's what gets on my nerves. Like where YouTube dig up the fucking dirt from to come call it, and then he said, Whoever Indy I Ree is, he don't know who she is. You see what I'm saying? Everybody knows that's the part that kills me. That lets me know the education level and the wisdom that you already have, anyway. If you don't know her, that's a problem for you. Because if you only know my young Miami music and Trina music, all that kind of music, that's a problem for you. You should know a lot more. Okay, different strokes for different folks. So some people thrive off this music, some people like this type of music. Yeah, the music is put out for certain things, but at the same time, it's like, okay, when I guess what she's saying is, when are we gonna do better? Yeah, and the culture, and that's all she's doing. And that's all she was saying. So it's like when people speak on it, they gotta get attacked. It's like you gotta agree, or it's something wrong with it. But you gotta get yeah, so it's like if it's something wrong with me because I don't agree with it, and it's like it's not nothing wrong with me because I don't agree with it. She's not saying, Oh, stop listening to the music, she made that very clear. Yes, she just said that we have to be mindful. And the thing I said is if she said where all my working niggas at, the song wouldn't have been as hot. And the world will be a better place if everybody stops thinking we all gotta agree with the same person. This is what sells.
SPEAKER_00This is it's the money tree. So that's what they're doing. Everything is all about money, and and it's hard to do that.
SPEAKER_02I'm trying to say music ain't I I hate it. I ain't saying music music is not the blame of everything that's wrong. You all black. It's not we have always a lot to do with it. It is, but we've always had that fun juke music, you know what I'm saying? It's who's raised, went out there in the is the problem, and it's not a lot of stand-up people. That's the problem. It's not necessarily music. You don't have a lot of Malcolm X and Michael Luther Kings walking around here no more. There is some, and I'm wrong. But do y'all not highlighting them? Y'all keep highlighting this type of thing. So let's highlight it all so we can get some balance around the biggest. Yeah, it's like let's let's talk about the positive. Let's talk about let's talk about one or next and all maybe. About money, right? It's not, they're not, and that's what everybody gotta realize. It's all about money, I mean that's just like with the internet. If you talk about positive things, it's not gonna go. You gotta go on there, talk crazy, be crazy, be wild, and in order for it to do something, it's just the world thrive off of negativity, and all she was saying was why. She just was asking the question. So when he said the world would be boring if it was only Afrocentric music, how do y'all really feel about that? So erase everything, erase your crop music, erase your shoot 'em up, bang bang, uh gay music, whatever. Erase all of that, and we just don't erase all of it. So erase all of that, right? No. I think it'd be more love, more we're gonna have a vibe.
SPEAKER_00So at work, but it's it's I don't like to put anything on the TV or any music on that I feel like gonna have people talking or thinking, okay?
SPEAKER_02I put HGTV on the TV because the commercial's gonna be about renovation, everything, because I don't want to talk about politics with nobody at work or nothing. But the music station I chose is Disney Kids Pop. Why? Because it gives everybody a vibe, okay? No matter who comes in there, white, black, Chinese, and it's Disney Pop.
SPEAKER_00I think if we took a way to shoot them up bang, bang, oil, the world would be a better place. And it wouldn't be boring. It wouldn't be boring. I don't agree. You don't think it would be boring? No.
SPEAKER_02I don't think it would be boring. I was jamming. It's nothing. Everybody don't like the same thing, so we don't know what it'll be. But it's nothing wrong with it. It's nothing wrong with dancing music. I'm gonna say that. It was another thing before, it was a reason for that music back then. Y'all just took it for another thing.
SPEAKER_00Remember back then, we only may have three or four rappers that talk crazy like that, okay? Yeah, you got Tupac and Biggie. I don't I don't really listen to rap, so I don't really know. But now you got everybody 60,000 rappers. Everybody is on the shooting, banking the pill, uh link.
SPEAKER_02What makes you hard having sex and so it's like it's too much to ignore? You know what I'm saying? I think that's that's the problem now. It's just so it's too much to ignore. Me too much. I'm gonna find sometimes. I mean, sometimes you get in your mood. But it's listening. What do it do? What do it do? It puts you in a mood. In a better mood. So what do you think? But what do you think? I had to stop acting like music don't wrong music. So I know y'all was not in the line. When Ducky the Book came on, y'all weren't ready to knock somebody damn here. And it was a fight every time. That's your first thing. That's your first thing you're doing. You know at somebody. You know how many times me and my sister didn't get it to off a nut and you if you bumped in the club. You see what I'm saying? Because a female wanna try you. Because somebody wants to try us, like or they just walking around bumping you. Yeah, yeah. It's it's the music. It's always been the music. I was one of the people. Now I was not that bad, but I was the people who were like, when they're doing this, I'm like, now I gotta be ready because she's gonna bump you and she's gonna be upset. I'm gonna fight because she's about to fight. Yeah, yeah. So the music control, everything. But think about these young kids, right? They on so many different drugs, they on lean, they on fields, they on. Then you get in the car that say, Rad out, kill everybody, shoot, shoot. What you think that's what you supposed to do. Supposed to do. That's when you were younger. I could say that's when I was younger. Now, if I hear knock if you buck, you know, I'm just right. I'm not about to go back to the back of the book. But now with the younger generation, that's that old lady. Imagine if they play enough if you buck. Imagine if they played that in 2026. No, at a club with young people. That ain't that crazy. Our music is what our younger kids actually still listen to. My kids be like talking about everybody I grew up on. RB, yes, but not. I don't think they really listen to you like that. Not that kind of 27 that morning when they still be cleaning up. I think they play it at clubs we be at on the ones our genre, but I don't think if you went to an 18 and up club, they're gonna play nothing. Okay, am I tripping? Is our younger youth even going to the club? No. My baby ain't thought to be called. They don't go to the club. I know. I mean, they go to a hookah lounge or something. They don't dance. No, it's the club. They go to house parties. The clubs like when we that we went to, they can go there. They 18 and up now. They still can be going. A lot of them are far as I go to downtown. No, what is it called? It is Nikki. Oh, that might be the only one. That might be something that's the only one that's gonna be. And guess what? They be shooting outside of Nikki Sue.
SPEAKER_03What about Floods? That's what I'm saying.
SPEAKER_02These kids ain't gonna be 21. Oh, yeah, I don't know. You used to have to be 25 when you were coming up. But I don't think the young kids are really even interested for real though, like how we were because I know I was in the club at 18. I was in the club. Yes. See, that's what I'm saying. So they're not really interested. And I still wasn't acting all wild and doing all the things. I was listening to their music to the radio. They they don't even they don't even listen to the radio. Yeah, they don't listen to the radio. I listen to the music. They don't do nothing. They put their playlists on. Yeah, yeah. I don't know. These new kids scare me. These new kids scare me. They don't have enough going on because now you that's they don't have enough going on for me. But they got the potential to have it all. But they don't have it, and they don't even under they don't have the knowledge to use. They too, I don't know. It's too weird.
Social Media And Protecting Your Peace
SPEAKER_02It is a lot. It's a lot too much. Because it's too much for me. It's a lot. It's too much. Like this internet stuff. This is too much. It is. It's a lot. Like when Chris be, y'all gotta post your page. My Facebook pagebook page to make my post to go on tomorrow. Negative. When I say half of the friends on my Facebook page is so negative, it's about a baby daddy, it's about a man. Then they post stuff about and they say stuff that'd be like you feel like it's direct, and you be like, Well, I ain't talking about nobody. Well, why did you post it? Or that's not about me. Like, it's just soul draining. Everybody passed away. I told Crystal like she's for me because I hate it now. Yeah, yeah, yeah. My face is before the podcast, I've tried y'all, I promise. But it's like y'all didn't take already, I'm stuck over there. On there, yeah. I'm so happy you over there. It puts you in the mood. It puts you in the mood every time you is right now, is it's damn near an obituary. Okay. Every time you go on there, it's just death after death after death. My anxiety cannot handle that. Yeah, I don't want to go on there TikTok. I'm laughing to my stomach. To my stomach, yeah. Like that's what I need. I cannot be in that dramafied world. That's what I'm telling me. Okay. Or a story. I go down a whole rabbit hole or something, and that's my whole timeline. I'd be like, I'd rather do that though. I can't do that. But that's your own control. That's my control. I learned Facebook maintenance on Facebook. I learned to schedule these posts. So that way, like on Saturday mornings when I'm free. Yes, I'll go make a bunch of satisfactions. You can pitch what days you want to post them. So I don't do it. That's just tweeting. That's what you do on the content side of stuff. Because I don't want to go over there. So I'll schedule our posts and stuff like that. I'll schedule it and I can keep it moving. So yes, that's it. We're gonna keep it moving. So our third topic was it was a question, y'all.
Why Black Businesses Lose Support
SPEAKER_02The question was what is the disconnect with black consumers supporting black-owned businesses? Meaning customer service. That's the number that's number one for me. Customer service, attitudes, the stank look when you walk in. Like, what is and I'm gonna tell y'all the number one reason why I haven't just all the way pushed my scrubs yet. Because I feel like this is my baby. This is something that so until I can have everything perfect, which I know every everything can be perfect, but it's like you deal with so much negativity, you have to be on point. Consistency.
SPEAKER_00So somebody making an order, placing a they'll leave you on red for eight days. They'll take your money. Why did that happen for prime and have you waited for something for 60 days? I would never do that. I can't.
SPEAKER_02The miscommunication and I saw you read the message. You said I can do it, but don't you do another? That's so irritating. It's a lie. Black people, seriously, black people, their customer service, it's so horrible. Especially around prime. You know, you don't play around your baby. Don't play me around prime. I'm so happy that shit over with. It's everybody though. Okay, I don't even think it's just everybody. So I'm saying it's so the business. I think it's both sides. Something that we're in a part. True. Okay. I think it's both sides. When you think of the black consumers, you know, the customers and the black owned businesses. I think everybody has a part to play in the dysfunction of it. When I say that, when on the black business side, we was talking about the customer. No, first off, on the consumer side, we actually have to want to support black-owned and stop acting like we're doing them a favor because we don't pull up at Walmart and tell that I'm here to shop in here, yeah, doing you a favor. You know what I mean? And we don't come in there with that ego and that shoulder chip because when we go into some black-owned business, they be looking like what you got and make sure it's legal. We don't go everybody, it's not, but a lot of people experience that like we're doing them a favor. So we gotta, you know, so I need you to come to this particular grocery store which needed because you don't go a lot of times. We will experience bad customer service from the other people as well. We do not take it to the internet as much. Y'all don't go to their websites and go, I had the worst service of my life. But let a black-owned business give you something bad. I just understand, you know, but this happens more than it should. We will go, you will go in target, you will go on Walmart, you'll go over here, you pull up at this black lady who sold them dinners, and she gave you a little attitude. This bit, you all on her, you all on social media. Yeah, but you got that but you got that bad customer service from every person you had saw today. So I think we have to be consistent. And if you feel bad customer service need a bad review, do it for everybody. Don't just yeah, go off on Lakeisha. Now, on the other side of things with black businesses, they have to take your own business seriously. You need to provide the proper customer service. When I come to your restaurant, I shouldn't have to deal with Homegirl and her attitude serving me. Yeah, I don't want to deal with that. But unfortunately, when I go over there, I I probably didn't deal with it. And guess what? If they probably talking shit behind the door, but I ain't see it in front of my face. You know what I'm saying? They're not treating me a certain kind of way in my case. Exactly. And two, yeah, y'all have to be serious about your business, be consistent. There's no reason why your website should say you close on Monday and Tuesday, but I put up on a Wednesday, it's still closed. Be consistent. Be consistent. So I think a lot of people. I'm leaving in an hour, so you gotta hurry up. I'm trying to shop and you're telling me it's three o'clock. Yes, it's like a job. We both close. And you do get it from the case. You get it from both sides. Everybody who's comfortable, you get it from both sides, most definitely. But with Walmart and all that, I think it is more of you're not really dealing with who's in charge. Right. So I think not dealing with her who's in charge, yeah, it plays a part in it. When you're dealing with a small business or whatever, you know who in charge. You dealing with exactly who's in charge. So I think that's play a part in it. True, but y'all go to Coney. I didn't get horror service sometimes too, and still gonna go on the website and go complain. I'm not getting it. I don't like to be complaining on nothing. I know, I'm barely ever but I but I want to do word of mouth to start. I'll do word of mouth, and I'll be like, I want to start. Yeah, don't mess with them, but you can go at your own risk. But this is what I experience. But I just want us black people to keep that same energy across the board. And you know what else is messed up? Whatever I do, it don't matter. With each other, stop being in competition with each other. It's so much money out here to get. We do not everybody it's enough. It's enough, it's enough to get your 500,000 Walmarts. And guess what? It's always gonna be another female prettier than you, it's always gonna be another guy better than you. So if I walk in a restaurant with a dude and you give him better service than me because you think I'm gonna be the man, oh, it piss me off. And they say on my age. She done said what happened. It happened to me all the time. All the time, all the time they treat Corey so, and we're not, they'd be like, Treat my homeboy like a king. He didn't even know he was just my homeboy, and she just dismissed me off. I'm like, baby, you can get his number. I don't care, just give me a drink. Right. That's what they gotta be. That's why I said both sides need to be held accountable. Y'all gotta get the customer service. This is it is crazy, most definitely. Yeah, it's crazy. So, yeah, we we we need to do better. Black people need to do better with customer service. If if you can't do it, guess what? It's okay with saying, I'm overbooked, I'm not able to do it. Maybe next time, yes, communication is a two-way street. If you can't do it, just say so. Just say so. Yep. Or how about it'd be if you make the money.
SPEAKER_00So the money be spent already. So people collect the money, we spend what we don't have.
SPEAKER_02We spend what we don't have, and also when you a small business, everything is really paid for itself. So it's like you might order 50 things, and now you need this money from this person. Now you don't have all her stuff together, the prime dresses by the black exactly. So it's like taking on more than you can chew instead of turning down stuff. It's okay to say it's not right. You can't really like you saying, Can we stop getting mad at your cousins or your mama or your sister or your brother if they don't support you? Uh-huh. Everybody ain't gonna support you.
SPEAKER_00Strangers, strangers can't tell you family, do and you know exactly they will if it's your business, then but I think people get mad because it depends on the relationship.
SPEAKER_02But I'm learning more and more that you can't expect you to be able to do. I'll just say you compete. No body. So it's like, come on, I'm not gonna get what I give. So either I'm just gonna genuinely give it and expect nothing or nothing at all. You know what else kills me? You know your cousin Pookie did wrong. Do not get on there trying to come for me, and you know your cousin ain't doing his business right because I was shot that I done messed it up. You know this business ain't ran right. Do not get on there. That's my cousin. I don't care if it was your mama, it ain't ran right. Exactly. Stop, please stop. When it comes to the people are not gonna put you can't expect a you from other people. I think a lot of that still happens to because when you finally get to that phase, because I finally get to that phase where I'm not gonna get a me from other people, right? But when I start giving less of myself, that's when the problem came because now you're looking for more of me. So now that's the problem. Now now it's a problem. Yeah, I didn't expect you to do that, but you keep expecting me to do that. So now we that doesn't work. Like I feel like we even us experiencing this like with this podcast, like we experiencing that too. You know what I'm saying? Oh, baby, yeah. I get people, I'm not like I I don't like other people, you know what I'm saying? Supporting me. Well, what be if we maintained it really just on there with the kept up with the negativity, but it's like that's not what like family. No, I'm saying family and friends. Like you don't have all your families and friends supporting you. Oh no, we have more outside people. So of course that's what I'm saying. Like that's why I'm saying we expect. I went to a graduation party a couple times ago. I mean doing this. If they watch, they watch it. If they don't, they don't watch it. I literally don't hear don't mean that they don't be watching. Y'all watch it, they stay watching. Yeah, I think that's why we okay with working. But I get y'all don't even know. When I was at this graduation party, I was sitting here and a girl was crushing me. She goes, I know you're from somewhere. And I was like, Me? She goes, Yeah. And then the other girl started like, We watch her podcast. I was just like, Oh no! Like, yes, oh my god, where y'all where y'all been? We I mean was really in tune. I was just like, Oh my god, thank you. I appreciate it. That's what I'm saying. I get that a lot.
SPEAKER_00That's why I just be like, but I told you how to go see the watch versus the so when you see it like that, it'd be like, Okay, I know y'all was watching it later.
SPEAKER_02And also, I like to say thank you so much for supporting. Yeah, you want to say something different every time. We're trying to build and get better every time. So you watching us and helping us helps, yes, and we're gonna get better, right? And we will build and we got more on it.
SPEAKER_01I love that.
SPEAKER_02Okay, it's coming, it's coming. Okay, so we had another question. We're just gonna
Genuine Compliments Versus Hidden Shade
SPEAKER_02go ahead and move on. Can you tell the difference between genuine compliments and envious compliment from a woman? All the time, yes. I like your little hair. Yes, there you go. That's not a genuine compliment. No, listen. Oh, wait. I used to say that too, but that was very genuine. No, the word little just I didn't even let it took my word. Okay, wait, y'all, they gotta be right here, y'all. Oh, sorry. I apologize for that. Don't never let nobody say I like your little something. Okay, no, don't tell me nothing about it. Remember, I put that on our very first podcast. I like your little podcast. No, this big podcast. Exactly. But that's why I don't get offended by that word, depending on what they're saying. You know what I'm saying?
SPEAKER_00Because it's like it's a figure of speech for some people, but I can most definitely tell the difference.
SPEAKER_02That's what I'm saying, Marlin. It's always gonna come from my hair every time it's something. For real?
SPEAKER_03So go hair deeper.
SPEAKER_02Go a little deeper, go outside the word. And can you tell by a genuine confident envious copy by the demeanor of how they do it? I'm gonna give you an example. So, dang, this is like last week. This is so creepy. Somebody had, I was, I had got real cute. I don't know where I was going. I think I was trying to irritate Marlin. You know what? Marlin. Marlon, why you know what the beat are up? Now you know what type of parents. I'm gonna get cute and go outside. I ain't going to grocery stuff, and I'm not beating a boy like that.
SPEAKER_03Like, no, I think I went to the store or something.
SPEAKER_02So no plan. But no, I had was real cute. No, we was leaving church. That's what it was. We was leaving church. And I had on this looky lap and whatever. Me and T2 went up some ice cream. So a person, can't say that. They're gonna know it's him. Anyway, personally, I thought we was giving up caring. Giving up caring. I don't know who's caring. Caring. Oh, caring. I thought this person at church was like if they come across it, I mean. So they noticed in the weight loss, right? Anybody, I tell Ronnie think this is hilarious because he was waiting on people to say stuff like this. Anybody who actually knows me and has followed me on social media anywhere, I post me all day. I'm always in the stories. Big body's little body was always gonna be there, right? So somebody now it always was there. Yeah, always been there, right? So such that girl, like I see you've been posting and being cute lately or whatever, or something. You look cute. You've been doing a little something different. I see. It was something how they say I can't say the word from word, but it was like, I kept it to myself, and then later on, that's the envious compliment, right? Yeah, later on, I was at the grocery store. I'm walking to the store. I mean, I walk into the car to put my bags in the car, and it was another girl walking. She on the phone, she just yapping, she's going off on somebody like because I don't like that helper. Oh shit, girl, you doing that. You look real cute. Yeah, I had to tell this girl she was real cute. Telling me how cute I was. Now that was a genuine compliment. I was like, I wonder how often do we get compliments from people, and y'all don't even know half of it is not G. I got one of my son Prime sent off. Y'all want to know what she said? No. It's usually somebody close from you when it's like that. Yeah. You gained all that way back. Oh he was cute though. He was so pretty. Your hair is cute. But you gained all your weight back. It looked good though, on you. I said, oh, okay. It's happy weight and walked away. That's one of my biggest pet peeves in life is weight. Speaking on it. I don't like when people tell me I'm gaining weight or losing weight.
SPEAKER_00Because I already know. Because I go up and down all the time. Okay.
SPEAKER_02In the summer I get thick. In the winter time, I lose weight.
SPEAKER_00Okay, I don't need to remind me all the time.
SPEAKER_02So I don't need nobody to be like, oh, you gained weight. Oh, you lost weight. Oh, you gained weight. I know I put my own pants on and my own panties. Thank you. I'll be back from it, though. It's not. I don't like it. It's irritating. That's okay. What are you doing? You ain't no drug, y'all. Look, I was stressed out last week. This week I ate everything. Like, what? Okay. But when you when you lose two or three pounds as a woman, it's showing your face. So then you gain it back, it's showing your face. Even if it don't change in your body. So it's like I don't need you to tell me.
SPEAKER_00Yeah. Thank you. Yeah.
SPEAKER_02Even skinny people, they don't want to hear, oh, you skinny skin. She'll have no business telling.
unknownNo problem.
SPEAKER_02Tell me your mama, baby. Cory told me down and through there, okay? Everything homegirl gave me, she took me down and through there. My mama will come click. Oh you wouldn't work out today? No, I did not. Well, that's your mama, she can do it. Back up. She the only one that does it. My grand was like, they know hey with it. It's a girl, you're getting big there. That was my grandma. But you know they're gonna tell your name. Your family gonna tell you the truth. I know where you're coming from and who really wants. You know he being malice. Like, you know, they're not being malice when they're trying to be mean. But some family members are. I don't know. I walked to my grandma's house. She was like, ooh, I don't like that dress. I got in the car, I was like, Corey, what's wrong with my second guess yourself? He was like, I'm like, is it appropriate for the wickedness? She was up in there tripping. She act like I was naked.
SPEAKER_00Like, golly. No problem telling you the truth. Throw me up and down, baby.
SPEAKER_03She looked up.
SPEAKER_02I'm like, damn.
unknownAll right.
SPEAKER_02Just like. All though, give it to me. So I don't care because I'm a clunk. But if a person don't give me compliments, I'm gonna tell you right now, and they stare at me and they got new stuff going on. I will not compliment them back. I'll do just like they did me. Stare at them and be like, what's going on? Now I'm not gonna compliment you back. Exactly. I know it's shade. But if I if you know how I do y'all, I'll be okay. But I wouldn't sit there and throw no shade and be like, girl, you look good with the new, you know that no, no, I'd rather not say nothing. Just but y'all need to stop that for real. Because me and my little hair look good. Listen, because y'all heard what I just said. I said, okay, right, big hair, big cure, curious. I guarantee you, homeboy. Gay. Does he call me gay every time? Oh my gosh, Marlon. Oh, but he was having me bag y'all bags up, but he gonna fix it.
SPEAKER_03Kira with the big booty.
SPEAKER_02Marlin, no, not straight gay. I mean, shut up, not gay.
SPEAKER_03Okay.
SPEAKER_02Moving on to our last one. Do
Do Painful Moments Shape You
SPEAKER_02you believe everything that hurts you shaped you? Yes.
SPEAKER_01Everything and good or bad. I'll go ahead.
SPEAKER_00Everything made me who I am, good or bad. No matter all the bad situations, something good still came out of it. Like a lesson was learned or something. Like I I know not to go back and revisit something.
SPEAKER_02Like it's a lesson. I take it all on the chin. Yeah. Yeah. I have no regrets. I used to. I ain't gonna lie. I go, oh, I should have waited. Oh, I should have done this. Like, and now that I'm like in my big 40s, like I don't regret nothing. Periodically without everything that I've been through because I am who I am today. I give no applicts for real. Because who would you be without all of that? Without every single chapter that I the good, the bad, the ugly, though. Well, who would I be without all of that? I wouldn't have learned anything without those bad things. I don't, yeah, like I don't regret anything, and I am not looking back. Me neither. That past is that past for a reason. Yes, I'm gonna tell y'all right now, like Crystal said, I'm big Hira. Let me tell y'all my first level, my confidence, my everything, my worst ethics, everything I got going on is really big, and I don't doubt nothing. I don't, I don't care if you don't even like me because the way my attitude is now. Just don't disrespect me. You ain't gotta like me, but you better respect it. And that's just how I am in life. You ain't gotta like it, but respect it. Everything is big around here. I think people could use that confidence and they're so mad about it. My whole life. People like who you were. I'm not mine. I just went in the room like I owned it because I knew it. So I don't know. I'm not gonna shrink myself never on that. I only love this version of me. And I say it all the time. Well, I wake up in the morning. I love this version. I think it's the age. I think it's the age. When you grow in the world, yeah, maturity. Yes, it's the age. The owner of the super gay. I told you you're gonna say that. Ignorant, mom. Okay, what about you, Crystal? The same. I don't think I'm well, I think y'all a little ahead of me when it comes to that. True, because I think I love this. Is probably my best version. I love who I am right now. Like, oh my god. And it's not a it's a lot that has changed, but not too much because I've always have just loved my own personality, I've always loved myself and always love like what I stood for, but just because none of the fake, the shade, none of the other people could have never changed who I was as a person, right? And then I think the person I'm becoming now is just people somebody with boundaries. And I'm accept I'm loving it because now I'm like, okay, nobody tell me I can't say you know. Like I'm saying it now, and it's super hard. And I'm also learning how to like we were talking about the other day. I'm learning how to take compliments. Somebody in here told me that too. Me, I have a it was you. I have a bad problem with actually taking a compliment. Do I? Yes, you know, girl, it's all bad. Like, I did it today earlier. I do it all day and it's bad. Like somebody be like, Oh my god, I like your dress. Oh, I had this point seven years ago and it got a hole right here. It's just like I hate that. So somebody was telling me my cousin, I think she had told me and was like, Does people please please stop doing that? Yeah, make somebody else comfortable. Yes, let them confidence. Thank you. And it happens all day. I'm gonna thank you. Oh my god, I hear oh, it's a week. No, nobody needs to know. Everybody gotta hear every damn thing. But I can't, I'm I'm this old. You're working on it. I'm working on it, and it's so hard. So it was so funny as I read head was like, Oh my life and piss like TC. I had this like three eight years and I bought it for three dollars. And he like, God, Chris. All you had to do was say, I'm like, okay, my bad, my bad. Like, so I'm working on that, yeah. But yeah, I don't have no regrets, but I am still working on not living in the past too. Like, because whatever hurt me then, I don't allow it to like still hurt me, but I still I don't want to keep replaying things. Like, I hate that about it. But you know what? That's a part of healing and grieving the situation. You're gonna replay it, just don't react on it. Right. And you gotta give yourself grace. Yes, you gotta give it to you. It's not gonna go away. You can't erase your mind. That's what people feel to realize. You cannot erase your mind, you only can't react, you only can erase the way you react to. So the way that it makes you feel now, you can't get in those feelings. Right. So it's like, oh, I can have this thought in my head, but long as I don't act on it, as long as I don't allow it to put me in a place and make me sit there, it's okay. That's why the 24-hour thing is like, okay, if something bothered me, I need 24 hours. Yeah, I'm working on it. I need 24 hours to process it before I react because I learned that in that moment, I'ma go zero to 10, but then tomorrow I'ma feel bad and be like, okay, I didn't have to react like that. So now I'm doing the 24 hours, I'll be like, That is over. I'm not saying nothing until 24 hours and see if I still feel the way I felt. And it's working. I won't even text back. I'm gonna get it once or twice. I just I'll ignore it. Yeah. I said he said something like that to me. He had one off on me at work and then go come over to me because I stopped talking to him. Like, is you okay, baby? I said, Is you bipolar? I just thought about it, you know, and I just thought like Kira ain't gonna have to go that hard on you.
SPEAKER_03We ain't gonna have you on the podcast.
SPEAKER_02Wait, is that from the podcast though? You couldn't have got it with the one. I just like it. You know, one thing I'm gonna share with you though, Crystal, because I once was you in that season, right? Um, one thing that I had to learn with me being, you know, when I started studying and being in the Bible is that you have to repent. You have to repent and then forgive yourself. Forgive yourself and then give us grace today. Yes, give yourself grace because baby, it don't it works. It worked. And stop trying to control the situation out of your mind. That's what gets us. When you don't have no control, especially when you don't have no control over like like J just said, you can only control you, yeah, right, and the way you do the situation as long as you keep allowing things and people and people's negative energies and stuff to rub off on you, then that's you giving it life. You get what I'm saying? Love on you, love on you, love once you first make yourself a priority. Everything else falls into place because if you giving yourself all this love and you making yourself happy, nothing nobody else do can change that.
SPEAKER_00So it's like not depending on nobody else to keep you uplifted, and it's like being with yourself is only can be somebody's if you're not there for you. That's what If I'm being with yourself.
SPEAKER_02I say I'm doing the real work of it, it's not rewarding. I love it. It's the rewarding, it's your own cup. I love crystal scontent. Yeah, I want to grow to be like crystal scontent. Yeah, no, that's I am when I say working on that, I mean really doing the work, and it is really working. Because they they say where as you get older, you get that you don't give an F no more. That's the only way that really works. It's that's literally the only way. Because I don't really be caring. If I want to wait, it's the only way, I promise you. It's the only thing. Like you see me doing care that much think about your own household.
SPEAKER_00Just think about the people you said it or I'm letting it go, and you bye.
SPEAKER_02If you gotta worry about you, T T Marlin, the baby, all that's already six people ahead of you that you before you. So it's like now I gotta deal with this person, this person, that person, this person. Oh, that's too much. We're not meant to take in all that, and I think that's why social media got everybody so messed up because we're taking in too much that the brain was not meant to take in. Like now I know your problems. This person got a heart problem, this person just got uh cancer. Now I think my son got cancer. I got a heart problem. My grandma's gonna wake up dead tomorrow. That's what I'm like. All of everybody's problems and issues and thought it's something that's coming into your head. It's very that's what messes up my anxiety at nighttime. Facebook before you come back. Like she said, what you put in here, I learned that. What goes inside my head faster? Whatever I'm thinking, all the way down to the type of shows I watch. It's certain things that I don't watch because it put me in the mood. So it's like I'm not watching that because if I watch this, I'm gonna be in the mood. And my husband would just like don't watch that.
SPEAKER_00It just puts you in a place in a tiny bad certain areas, certain places that I think certain people you be around.
SPEAKER_02Certain people are always bad and depressed and want to cry. Don't come around me with the city. I'm somebody on the childhood. You gotta know you can't be around. Never so it's like every time you're going into this space that is dumping all that energy. Energy trip return, yes, and that's exactly what I'm working with. I'm so conscious about what I take in. Yeah, I let everything go.
SPEAKER_00I really, I literally do not care. I yeah, I don't care who likes me, who talk to me.
SPEAKER_02I've been worrying that feeling for so long. Now that I'm starting to like, I've been worrying about it. I don't even know that I'm like the bad. It's no going back. You just gotta put yourself back. You're putting yourself back because why should I be unhappy to make everybody else happy? That's not good. This don't make me feel good. So why am I doing it to make somebody feel? Stop doing what you like doing because somebody else don't like it. Don't exactly. This is your life. And your starts with learning you, yes, it's because you gotta know what you're able to take in and what you able to put out, what you're able to take. What you able to put up with. Yes, yes. Because, like we I think we talked about this on one of our shows. Is we all crazy. But what crazy we gonna put up with? What crazy is that? It's certainly crazy. I'm just not about to put up with yeah, point blank period. I don't care who you mean. I don't have the energy, I'm tired already. I say that all the time. Telling y'all, my energy changed for a little tiny person. She saw it all. And I tell people all the time, I know I'm not the friend of who I was five years ago. I ain't got it no more. I'm not the same friend. I done got my kids. If I ever be there for you, I will never be the same friend. I'm not, I'm not sure. I'm not the same friend. I'm sorry if you can't respect it. Yes, but I can't be there for you because I gotta be there for me and mine. Not 24-7. 24-7 is too much. You got your own life. People want to say, you know, you gotta make people make time for the friends and stuff like that. Okay, that's it. And I and I understand that. I understand that. That's why I said not 24-7. You can't put that on me if I don't have to be able to do that. And please, let's have fun. Let's just be fun. I was just about to say I don't want to be drained with you. I was just about to say, I don't have to anything. Exactly. Anything that I do now, I gotta get something out. That's how you have to give me something. Why would I want to pay money and do all this and just go out? When we went out last week, we had so much fun. Oh my god, I have so much fun. Y'all because we just time, we kind of chill. But that's what I'm saying. It's like giving your energy. And we didn't work, and being like, I made her leave her workbook in the car. You know what I'm saying? It's just I got learning. You're right. You gotta be able to get something out of there because I did something out of that. I was gonna cancel on y'all that day because I wasn't gonna go. I knew she was gonna say that. I had so much going on, y'all. I don't know working, and I had so much on my mind. I started to cancel so much on y'all.
SPEAKER_00But look how you didn't, but look how you didn't.
SPEAKER_02Everything definitely brought everybody needed it. We all needed that. Everybody gave each other what was needed. So them the them the type of relationships, those are the only type of relationships that you can be in. I can't be in a relationship when I leave you, I got a headache. I can't be in a relationship where when I go with you, my whole mind is racing because I don't know what's about to happen. We might be about to get into altercation. I can't be around those things no more. I can't do that. I want to talk about Billy all the time. I didn't even tell y'all. I had just came from my friend's memorial that day. Y'all know I was taking that risk. I was I just turned that far. But if I change your try to get it to change your move, I needed to change our world, and then it it mended us, it happened, it helped everybody because my we all needed the move. We all needed a little bit of what each other could give, and we gave it to each other. And that's what I said. So let me give now. And I'm I don't know how
Gifts, Merch, And Closing Plans
SPEAKER_02to keep a secret, y'all. So I can't I don't even know how to be a little fake. So, yes, we tried this earlier, but we had technical difficulty, so I'm gonna try it again. They're gonna act like this is their first time seeing me. What y'all? I got y'all. Okay, who would that?
SPEAKER_03Look at that, girl. Look at that, oh my goodness. Jean, open it up. Did she make him look at the party? No, it was.
SPEAKER_02I'm our party promoter. Come and holler at us. What is called? Double shot. Double shot Friday, y'all. They make it another double shot Friday, Marlin. And our cups. So I got them some cups, y'all. With their QR code and they name. It's so cute. Ah, y'all know I love me a cook. Look at our pin. It's a perfect size outfit on the mouth. So one by one, I want y'all to show y'all y'all uh look, picture. Um with the booty. These are his patches that's gonna go on a jacket. Wait, what is it saying? So cura with the booty. If my mouth doesn't say it, my face definitely will be. And it does. And hustler. Because she is gonna feel out here.
SPEAKER_03She is the other one.
SPEAKER_02Oh, and then she got the one.
SPEAKER_03Oh, okay.
SPEAKER_02So cute. Okay, go ahead, Keila. What you got? Because I'm locked up. And she is. I'm locked up. Why I got your hairstyle right now. No, that is my hairstyle for real. She happened up to that like a hair. And then I got us. And then because what? I'm limited. And then she got me this all love this. It says she's oh she opens her mouth. She yeah, she opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. Proverbs 31 and 26. Oh, that is clear. Come on, let me know. And though she really handpicked it, she did. I did. Really. Okay.
SPEAKER_01Okay, GN. I got my picture. And I got the because I'm the biggest. And she's eating beats all around.
SPEAKER_00That's me. And I most definitely.
SPEAKER_01And I most definitely said what I thought I said.
SPEAKER_02She said what you do. But thanks y'all for tuning in with us tonight. This is our first episode back. We'll see y'all not the next Wednesday, but the following Wednesday. Thanks for tuning in with us. We know y'all. We podcast on Wednesday. Thanks for coming. Is he not even here? He's just gonna end it here.